Author: Phil Rehberg

Last week we began to look at the problems of shame and self-rejection. This week we will look at specific steps for healing these areas. In general, the process begins by finding solitude (or find someone to guide you) for at least an hour. Then you ask God to reveal any self-rejection and then open your heart and mind and be aware of anything that comes. Then view yourself at a time or times in your life. Reflect on how you view yourself. Then when self-rejection comes up then you nullify it by accepting yourself as you are. The specific steps are as follows are below, but this is only half of the process. Next week we will present the remainder. Preparation: It will be best to set aside at least an hour in silence and solitude. Please be certain about being in a place of silence without interruptions. It Continue Reading →

It is inevitable that we will do or experience things that contradict what we believe to be good or valuable, whether these beliefs come from our conscience or somewhere else. When this happens we have a sense of guilt, although this sense can be dim or even completely buried. This contradiction, or violation then produces a sense of dishonor, disgrace or inadequacy. This is shame. Shame easily becomes self-rejection when we let the sense of sense of dishonor, disgrace or inadequacy become a firm belief about ourselves. Self-rejection means that you have decided that you or part of you is devalued. The longer you live with shame the more likely it will become self-rejection. Self-rejection is self-destruction. In other words, if you don’t deal with your shame in the healthy and loving way God intends, then you will be damaged and crippled in that area. Self-rejection is opposition to God. Continue Reading →