Do You Passionately Pursue Maturity?

Jesus and his Apostles clearly taught us that we should pursue maturity. But why? In this post, we want to focus mostly on the motivation of becoming what God made us to be. If your teenage child stopped growing intellectually and emotionally, would you not consider this a cause for great concern and make an exhaustive search for an answer to the problem? Wouldn’t you realize that unless your child resumes their development, they will not become what they should become? Wouldn’t you make every effort to help them pursue maturity and reach adulthood, along with its benefits? Likewise, if we allow ourselves to become complacent about our growth just because we have reached “teenage” maturity, then are we not choosing to fall far short of what we are meant to be? Are we not making our Father sad? Are we not sabotaging Christ’s efforts to join with us and Continue Reading →

Spiritual Friends Fulfill Our Hearts – Part Four

So far in this series we have looked at several ways for developing close spiritual friends. This week we look at accountability and healing. Many of us have a love/hate relationship with accountability. We know it is good for us, but we rarely, if ever, seek it out. And if someone tries to hold us accountable without our asking, our usual impulse is to resist it. Moreover, the idea of us holding others accountable makes us cringe because we don’t feel qualified or, we fear the disturbance in our relationship. But if we want deep spiritual friends, then we will welcome accountability. In the New Testament accountability is mentioned in the form of warning each other. Colossians 3:16 instructs us to be “admonishing one another”. The Greek word for admonish means gently warn or caution. I prefer the word warn because “admonish” is vague to many of us. Warning each Continue Reading →

Spiritual Friends Fulfill Our Hearts – Part Three

So far in this series we have looked at four ways for developing close spiritual friends: bearing burdens, using spiritual gifts, building one another up, and encouragement. Today, we look at two more: comfort and intentionality. 2 Corinthians 11:4 teaches us: “[God] comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” (ESV)  It is interesting that the Greek word for comfort is the same word used to describe the Holy Spirit as a comforter, paraklētos. Thus, believers have a role similar to the work of the Holy Spirit for each other. All comfort comes from God, and we are to be the channels. Paraklētos can also mean exhort or urge, and this is how it is used in other passages. Thus, we are to comfort, exhort, and urge one another as spiritual friends. Consider Continue Reading →

Spiritual Friends Fulfill Our Hearts – Part Two

Last week we looked at two principles for developing close spiritual friends: bearing each other’s burdens and using spiritual gifts. This post looks at two more. Remember, these principles apply one-on-one or in a group. The next principle is intentionally building one another up to be more like Christ. I Cor. 14:26 states: “Let all things be done to build each other up.” Eph. 4:12-13 explains that God gave different types of people to the church “for building up the body of Christ, until we all attain . . .  to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.” Think about how helpful it would be to have spiritual friends who consistently encouraged you to become more like Christ. How much strength would it give you to have someone speak words to help you be more like Christ in specific situations in your life? Those who Continue Reading →

Spiritual Friends Fulfill Our Hearts- Part One

Do you ever feel like you want some close spiritual friends you can take off your mask with and open up to? Are you feeling a hole in your spiritual life where spiritual friends should be? We were designed to have close spiritual friends in mutually edifying relationships where we can reveal our true selves and be channels of God’s grace. The New Testament refers to this as fellowship; the Greek word is koinonia, which literally means participation. What does the New Testament teach about fellowship? One of the principles we observe in the Apostle Paul’s life is that we should support one another, especially in troubled times. This is stated plainly in Galatians 5:2: “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ” (ESV). This implies that we actually let other people know what our burdens are! Think about how often we don’t do this. How often do Continue Reading →